We love our mama and papa but this sure can be hard
Let me first start by saying anyone whose parents welcome them back home after graduating college is so lucky! As frustrating as it can be they are doing you an immense favor. You don’t have to worry about bills and have time to settle into your new job or job hunt peacefully. If they really love you they will even serve you home cooked meals and do your laundry. So shout out to all the parents out there who graciously welcome their fledglings back into the nest!
That being said once you’re back home forget any privacy that you may have had in college. If you’re living at home your business is your parents business. Below are a few of the struggles that come with living at home
- Dating
Explaining to your parents that you’re going on your third tinder date this week is not optimal. As soon as you get back their asking you if its serious. Like no I have only met this man once and conversation was pretty dry, thanks for asking. Every date, which was a casual thing in college becomes an event and topic of conversation over dinner. Then once you finally do make it to the talking stage with someone how do you find a way to sleepover at their place without your parents thinking you’re a thottie?
2. Social Life
The casual “you’re going out again” or “you never spend time with us” from your mom is sure to put a damper on your evening. We’re in our 20’s this is what we do, even more so you probably live in the suburbs so the most trouble you can get into is getting buzzed at the local townie bar and ubering home. The constant needing to report to them about your whereabouts can get to be annoying, especially after being in college not having to answer to anyone. You regress back to feeling like a child.
3. Alone time
Want to scroll tik tok in peace for a hour or so? Get called out for being lazy almost immediately. Want to just chill and watch some Netflix? Too bad, next thing you know mother is screaming like a banshee that she forgot her computer password again and needs your help. Want to stalk your ex on instagram, plot twist, dad has enlisted you into a DIY home project.
4. FOMO
You’ll be forced to view the social media accounts of your friends who moved to big cities and seem to be living it up. While they walk the paths in central park you walk around the neighborhood. While they sip at a rooftop bar, you sip on a white claw at the same old bar. You totally feel like you’re missing out on this great big exciting life. BIt’s difficult not to compare yourself to them. See my post on comparing yourself to others.
Despite these minor inconveniences and loss of freedom that comes with living at home, remember to be cherish these moments you have with your parents. And there’s no shame in living with them either (don’t let society convince you otherwise), you’re saving that $$$$. Check out this article from the Atlantic for more on how the pandemic has pushed even more people to live at home with their parents than ever before:
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/07/pandemic-young-adults-living-with-parents/613723/
Kris Kronicles 